If dating is a game, like soccer, what are the dating equivalents of scoring a goal?
It turns out that your dating goals fall into 4 categories. These are the 4 dating goals:
COMPANY Spending time with you. Talking with you. Doing activities with you. Being seen with you.
CONNECTION Being your friend. Being vulnerable with you. Getting to know you. Letting you get to know them. Earning your trust. Letting you earn their trust. Becoming family.
COMMITMENT Them not freely dating whoever else they want. Them not freely having sex with whoever else they want. Making time for you. Staying with you. Marriage. Kids.
SEX Not much to add here…
If you’ve already scored a dating goal with someone, then you probably want to keep scoring that goal.
Sometimes this is an obvious point. You might have already had sex with someone, but if you want to have sex with them again, you better play your cards right.
Sometimes it’s not such an obvious point. You might be married to someone, and think that “marriage” is no longer a goal. But you’d be wrong. If you want to stay married, you better play your cards right.
It doesn’t matter if you’re 70 years old, and been happily married to your high school sweetheart for 50 years: As long as you have dating goals, you’re always playing the dating game.