Ah… the love left over from a past relationship. You’re trying to move on, forget about your ex, but you still love them, making it feel impossible to move on. You feel like your love for them won’t go away. But can you really still love someone who you’re not connected to anymore? Let’s examine these feelings further and you’ll gain a more empowered perspective on your situation.
Often times we have assumptions about love we have for our ex’s. They can sound a lot like:
While it may feel that this love was only and will only be intended for your ex, that’s not necessarily true. They were a part of you at one time or another and helped shape who you are now.. By removing these assumptions you’re empowered to begin self-love.
Ask yourself: What are my current go to “me” things to do?, When was the last time I spent an evening or day with my family/friends? If you are finding the answer to these are slim then it is a good indicator that these areas are lacking.
It can feel overbearing or lost trying to come up with ways to “fix” it. A few quick and easy ways to redirect that love and care are:
It will take time but remember that this love you have has come from you and is a part of you. You don’t have to forget or stop caring for the other person, but what you can do is turn that love into something good. Don’t hide it away to never be used again. Take time for you and your happiness and remember that by you being happy and healthy it brings about the same things- happy and healthy relationships.