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My fiancé broke up with me all of the sudden said he’s no longer in love with me and no sexual attraction. We’ve been together five years and he says he still loves me but more like a sister and still wants to be friends. All I want is to be back with him but feel it’s s losing battle
I am so sorry to hear that. That is an incredibly painful thing to go through. It sounds like your ex felt like there was a spark missing from your relationship. It's hard to give specific advice without understanding exactly when and where the spark started to go out. Are you two still in contact? In general, we usually suggest that clients back off a little bit to let their acts forget any negative feelings, and then engage their ex by trying to remember how things used to be in the beginning, and chatting them up by being light and flirty. I would love to be able to give you some more specific advice on how to increase the sexual tension between the two of you, so if you'd like to give me a little more detail on what your ex said changed his feelings for you, I would appreciate it.
He said he’s felt this way for the last year but I didn’t notice any difference. We just got back from vacation and had a little fight and then he left. We are still in contact. We spent Xmas together
Did he say why he had started to feel this way for the past year? Did he mention any specific things that reduced his attraction, like a weight gain, or not dressing as nice? We want to figure out what caused the loss of attraction, so we can get it back.
He never me he never mentioned anything. There was no weight gain or not dressing as nice said he just no longer was in love with me. Said he just no longer saw me that way
Sounds like you have a lot of expectations for him, and you keep getting disappointed. First I would cut back on the expectations, the best thing you can do for yourself right now is give a little space in the relationship and allow him to wonder about you. It takes a lot to break up a potential marriage and if you step back long enough to let the water settle you will have a better take on what each of you value in the relationship.... But first things first. Look at where you have expectations.